​GOLDEN RULE 

Remember, you're here to have a good time! But you're also here to help everybody else have a good time. Be friendly and kind and remember that we all make mistakes and behave inappropriately on occasion. Be slow to anger and quick to forgive. The dark chaotic randomness of the sex party is what makes it fun. You're here as a buyer and a seller. Not just a consumer. You bought a ticket to the dance but that ticket doesn't guarantee a dance partner. Bring your best self to the party.

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EYE CONTACT

Always make eye contact and look for body language. This is the most important rule to follow. Never lead with movement, always look for some eye connection first. 

 

REJECTION

You should expect to be rejected by more than half of the people you approach. Don't let it bother you, it's human nature that people like what they like. Discipline yourself to not internalize rejection as some kind of negative judgment of who you are. A sex party is a highly transactional environment where people are looking for certain things and you are no different.

 

MOVEMENT

If, after you make eye contact, the target of your desire moves slightly closer to you then you have your signal to take the next step. If he turns away and shows you his ass and moves closer that probably means that he wants you to fuck him. If he moves or turns slightly away from you and breaks eye contact that means he's not interested and you should move on. Don't be sad. If you're not getting rejected, you're not doing it right. 

 

NO MOVEMENT

If your target doesn't move then you do not have a positive signal that they are interested. It's possible that they could be a little shy or nervous, so you can move slightly towards them. If they still don't move then you most likely have their permission to touch them. If they move away when you move towards them then they are not interested. Don't go too fast. Give them time to react and make the decision. If you surprise them by moving too quickly, you may end up getting rejected just because they didn't have enough time to process what was going on. 

 

STOP

If your target breaks, eye contact or moves away leave them alone at that point. You may be able to come back in a little while. If you act aggressively now your target will just remember you as annoying— not as cool and chill. If you dodn't get a positive signal, though, you should leave that person alone. 

 

MISTAKES

Learn from your mistakes. If you get a hard rejection, think about what you did and why you might have provoked that reaction. Adjust your behavior and try something different next time. Don't just keep repeating the same mistake over and over again hoping for a different result. 

 

GROUPS 

If a group is already in progress and you want to join in simply position yourself nearby and wait for somebody to acknowledge you. They will either reach over and grab your dick or move their hand over your body somehow. Don't just reach in and start grabbing in without some kind of permission from some existing member of the group. If you interrupt without permission, all you're going to do is break up the group and cause everybody to move on. 

 

COUPLES

Similarly with couples, if you see two people having a good time together and you want to join in simply position yourself nearby and wait for some acknowledgment. If after about 10 seconds you don't get any then that's a pretty good signal that they don't want you to join in. Don't be pushy and grabby since that's annoying. Either you'll break up the couple or get a hard rejection. 

 

SPACE

Don't hover or stare at people from a close distance if there is no eye contact. Stay at least 6 feet away and watch from there. 

 

ASS UP

Some guys might get on their knees with their ass up if they want to get fucked. If you see this, move your hand onto their ass and fuck them if you want. Don't jam your fingers into their hole but you can gently play with their hole or eat it if that helps you get hard. 

 

SLING

If someone is in a sling then make eye contact. Run your hands down their legs and if they open their ass then you can shove your cock in that hole. Again, don't shove your fingers in their hole.

 

SEATED

If someone is seated they might want to get their dick sucked. Stand in front of them and make eye contact. If they smile or look interested while they play with their hard dick then drop and get to work. Don't just drop and get busy without some initial signal. If the seated person looks away or beyond you then they are not interested. It's also possible that they're just taking a break or watching the action. You can always sit down beside them and wait for some interaction like a knee moving towards you.  

 

TALKING

While some verbal banter is hot, avoid having extended conversations in the middle of a play area. This is distracting and unnecessary. if you want to talk just go somewhere quiet where there are no other people. Also avoid giving a play-by-play verbal commentary of what you see in front of you. A single "that was hot" or "yeah fucking hot man" is appropriate, a 45 second monologue detailing your thoughts on every step of the action in front of you is too much. 

 

PESTS

If somebody is being a pest all you need to do is look them directly in the eye and say please stop and add whatever it is they are doing that is bothersome. For example if they are hovering unnecessarily close to you just say 'please stop hovering so close to me.' If they are touching you without your permission just say 'please stop touching me.' If they are moving towards you aggressively you can simply say 'no thanks I'm good' while your lift and wave your hand in a gesture that indicates a negative response. Don't be a pest - look for eye contact and body language and move slowly.